You got there. You know what you have to do. You’ve dealt with all your own “stuff”. Now, you just need to make it so.
I prefer to come from the assumption that managers want their employees to be successful, but if that’s no longer possible, that they will be treated respectfully.
Unfortunately, it’s been a season of some pretty wild stories from friends and family that remind me that my assumptions aren’t the same as everyone else’s.
If I had been given the chance to challenge those managers beforehand, here’s what I would have shared.
To start, approach the situation with empathy. Remember, the person on the other side of the table is likely going through a whirlwind of emotions. They might be feeling anxious, disappointed, a loss of control, or even angry. Acknowledging these feelings and addressing them with compassion can make a world of difference. It’s not just about delivering the news; it’s about how you deliver it.
Clear communication is key. Be honest but not brutal about the reasons for the termination. Avoid vague statements and make sure the employee understands the rationale behind the decision. This clarity helps in reducing misunderstandings and potential resentment. Consider if it’s appropriate to share constructive feedback, highlighting areas where the employee can improve in the future.
Respect is paramount. Treat the employee with dignity throughout the process. This means giving them the time and space to process the information, answering their questions, and providing support where possible. Respect also means not saying everything you’re thinking, not commenting on things the employee can’t change (ah, those subtle comments about age or “that stage in your career”) and not letting the door hit them on the way out.
Finally I’d say that termination is a process, not a singular event. Like any process, it involves planning, documentation, and communication. The more thorough the planning, the better the chances you’ll achieve the desired result. With care and thought, you can navigate this process without permanently damaging relationships.
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Jonna, Lisha, Suzanne, Lisa, Karen and Linda